What’s the Deal With Handjobs?

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Okay, so what’s the official deal with handjobs? Are they sexy or not? This is the question debated over the ages. Maybe not, but some of us want to know.

What do you think of when someone brings it up? I don’t know about you, but it brings me back to my teenage years. It makes me feel like I’m sitting in the backseat of a car behind my hometown’s movie theater with Bobby from the baseball team.

Do they feel good? I’ve done some polling (all unofficial, of course), and the consensus is yes…if there’s nothing else available. It reminds me of the argument that a bad blowjob is better than no blowjob. Does one have to choose though?

Why does one give a handjob? It could be because the person doesn’t feel comfortable doing more yet. It can be a nice step before heavier sexual activities. That’s a perk.

What about established couples…is there any room for a handjob with them? Possibly. I’ve found that they’re nice to use (varied with other activities) as a foreplay before other heavier things.

How about you? Do you enjoy handjobs? Do you enjoy giving them?

 

 

 

 

31 thoughts on “What’s the Deal With Handjobs?

  1. I love a good hand job but I do think giving a good hand job is difficult. Okay not difficult but requires some kind of oil or lubricant to work well. Cream tends to dry up and get absorbed creating friction which makes it hard to continue for very long. Also unlike the current myth circulating, men like to have their minds played with and there is nothing as sweet as a good edging hand job that might be threatened in public or in front of someone else. Or perhaps there is a threat of not finishing. And it is not always about being fast. Slow, pulling, torturous strokes can be used wisely to build stiffness. It’s not about the destination it’s about the journey.

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  2. If I’m with a male sub, then yes. A hand job is useful. Slow, steady, forbidden to ejaculate. But it’s a build up. A excuse for humiliation, for orders, or pain. I don’t particularly like them. I can see the appeal in public maybe, but I prefer to push the envelope and go for a blowjob at minimum if we are going for public sex.

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  3. It’s part of a sexual repertoire. It’s good to share pleasure in what ever form and it’s exciting to find out how to pleasure well. In a relationship sex needs to be kept exciting and therefore doing something unexpected is good.

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  4. I think variety is fun, and there’s a place for handjobs. Kinda like sometimes you want a quickie, and sometimes you want slow lovemaking. My wife enjoys me using my hands on her, and I enjoy her hands, too. Mixing sensations just feels nice, and I don’t think handjobs only have to be a step before sex. And if it reminds you of being in the backseat with Bobby, would re-creating that scene be fun? That would be mixing things up, too.

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  5. I like them as a pleasant surprise-a sometime diversion. Funny though-she doesn’t…can’t seem to get the rhythm or angle right. So she’ll go straight to the blow job. And no, I never object.

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  6. They can be fantastic. It is a great feeling when there is an understanding that you (the man) is going to sit back and simply enjoy. You are about to experience an indulgent treat by your lover. There is a whole genre of erotica devoted to, for a lack of better phrase, cock massaging. There is definitely an art to it where the technique, sensuality, and intimacy is lavished on every inch of the man’s cock and balls…leading to the slow build up of extremely intense orgasms. But, if the woman is just trying to get the hard for intercourse or more focused on her imminent pleasure…the hand job is not that exciting. It is an indulgent treat and one that truly appreciated at the hands of our lover.

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  7. When done well handjobs are great. Done well includes lots of lube, steady pressure, creative hand positions and motions. It also includes edging and more edging, complete with a firm squeeze at the time of ejaculation.

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  8. My preferences for handjobs and other sexual activities has changed since 24/7 chastity. My goddess is learning the tricks to providing a ruined orgasm VIA a hand job. The hand job is more common now-a-days since she can watch my body for symptoms and listen to my groans to see if I am getting ready to cum. Its a guarantee that when she uses her hands, she can stop my ejaculations or force a small amount of cum out with one to many ruined orgasms.

    I definitely enjoy hand jobs now a LOT more than I used to. Its really the only pleasure I get right now since pegging and other methods of cumming aren’t really on the board. I think if there were more men in chastity, the use and enjoyment of hand jobs would go way up!

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  9. Like you mention in the post, the handjob is usually the first step on the road to intercourse. It’s the way that teens get to know their bodies, both by themselves or with a partner.
    I do think a handjob has its place in established couples. It’s a fun way to start off a hot night, and it’s also great to release stress in your partner.

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  10. I couldn’t resist. I need to comment on this topic. haha btw thank you for the ‘Like’ on “Teen wins month long long hotel stay with porn star” be sure to also check out the article I have on “5 stupid places to have sex” Anyway,the way my brain is wired is that if I know nothing else is possible due to the surroundings and its a little devious, then its great! For example, once I was at the this charity event dinner (nothing involving children because that’s an entirely different level of fucked up!) I had a bit of a history with the girl next to me at my table. Well, what happened was a lot like what happened in the movie “Wedding Crashers” & I was jerked off under the table. It was phenomenal! Mostly because it felt so wrong. lol However, if its a situation where I’m in a private place, then it’s ok to start off that way, but after a while I’m going to start thinking to myself “this feels good, but we can do other stuff.” Then if the situation doesn’t advance my “little me” will just die in their hands and go limp.Just can’t get off that way in private.

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  11. As a gay man, I just love mutual handjobs. As some people here have mentioned, it’s something that takes a bit of skill, and not everyone likes having their dick stroked the same way… Communication with your partner is key, find out how they like it, learn to read their body for when they’re almost on edge so you can hold back and drive them mad…

    Then again of course I’m biased, because mutual handjobs with other guys were the first step in my own sexual exploration, so they’ll always have a special place in my heart. 😀

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  12. During a time in my marriage when I was suffering a medical condition that made things a little difficult I managed to come up with some pretty creative ways and places to give hand jobs. Instead of it turning into an ordeal where both of us were “doing without” or him killing me with the constant request for a blow job, we have a fond memory of ways and places and some very naughty things that came of a “simple hand job”.

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  13. I sometimes enjoy messing with a guy (if he’s a jerk) by giving a handjob, and pretending I am not quite sure what I am doing, then when he’s about to erupt, letting go, and watching him just spurt to the disappointment of a ruined orgasm!

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